Slow Down
I need to follow her advice...
http://awesomelyawake.com/7-reasons-to-slow-down/
I'm especially feeling the need to slow down for this reason:
"If it feels like a chore, a job, a battle, slow down."
I've been feeling that everything is a battle to get done lately - from getting out of bed, or focusing at work; even getting ready for church this morning. Thomas is also very stressed lately, as he's getting ready to enter the workforce after almost 2 years of just school. He's also stressed that it's just a Per Diem job right now; the poor darling is getting very sick of me complaining about work, and just wants to be able to single-handedly support us right now!
We are both doing too much. Today we had a chance to just lie on the bed and talk to each other, which we haven't done in a few weeks. I think about how we were 10 months ago - newlyweds, with (almost) all the time in the world to talk together, spend time together, listen to each other. While we've gotten much better about hearing what the other has to say, we really haven't gotten many opportunities to do so in the past few months! Every time we have a spare day (or evening or hour or whatever) something comes up. Friends, family, service opportunities, important things that we HAVE to get done (like grocery shopping, grr); and we are the sort of people who find it really hard to say "no".
My goal for the new month is to forcibly make time, each day to slow down. Individually, or together, Thomas and I need to take time to smell the roses. Or just clean the kitchen. Together. Without worrying about time limits, or who is going to see it.
I can't help but think this would be easier if we lived in the country. :P
http://awesomelyawake.com/7-reasons-to-slow-down/
I'm especially feeling the need to slow down for this reason:
"If it feels like a chore, a job, a battle, slow down."
I've been feeling that everything is a battle to get done lately - from getting out of bed, or focusing at work; even getting ready for church this morning. Thomas is also very stressed lately, as he's getting ready to enter the workforce after almost 2 years of just school. He's also stressed that it's just a Per Diem job right now; the poor darling is getting very sick of me complaining about work, and just wants to be able to single-handedly support us right now!
We are both doing too much. Today we had a chance to just lie on the bed and talk to each other, which we haven't done in a few weeks. I think about how we were 10 months ago - newlyweds, with (almost) all the time in the world to talk together, spend time together, listen to each other. While we've gotten much better about hearing what the other has to say, we really haven't gotten many opportunities to do so in the past few months! Every time we have a spare day (or evening or hour or whatever) something comes up. Friends, family, service opportunities, important things that we HAVE to get done (like grocery shopping, grr); and we are the sort of people who find it really hard to say "no".
My goal for the new month is to forcibly make time, each day to slow down. Individually, or together, Thomas and I need to take time to smell the roses. Or just clean the kitchen. Together. Without worrying about time limits, or who is going to see it.
I can't help but think this would be easier if we lived in the country. :P
grocery shopping is a date to us! we plan to keep it that way. it's a fun time together :) and yes, you do have to plan and direct your time where to go. i just redid my time budget to better reflect that.
ReplyDeleteguard against thinking "if only _fill in the blank_ then it would be easier to _fill in the blank___." The Lord has shown me how faulty this thinking is. if i'm not doing it now, i won't do it then. it's called discipline for a reason i've found.
ReplyDeletethere is no 'making time' we all are given (as far as i know) the same 24 hrs in a day to use as we choose.